Back to School Advice for Girls!
School’s back in session! You’ve probably got a new haircut, new clothes, and a bunch of new expectations for what your year is going to be like. You also might be a little stressed out, worried about stuff like schoolwork, making friends, and fitting in. This is totally normal, and there are ways to help relieve some of that anxiety. Here are some things to keep in mind to have a fun, successful school year!
From friend of GENaustin Rachel Simmons:
Don’t expect your friends to be perfect. Because, well, they won’t be.
If you hold your friends to impossible expectations, not only will they for sure disappoint you, but it will feel way harsher when they do. Batters get three strikes. Your friends need some, too. Be forgiving. That doesn’t mean being a doormat. Just give people a little room to screw up. It’s classy. Trust me.
Don’t make assumptions about how your friends feel.
If someone seems weird or cold or otherwise unusual, just ask what’s up. Don’t decide they hate you or are ignoring you unless you’re 100% for sure that’s what’s going on. You will spare yourself a whole bucket of drama by just asking, “Are you okay?” or “Are we cool? You seem a little distant.”
Take a risk.
Take a chance and put yourself out there. Raise your hand when you’re not sure of the answer. Make eye contact with that cutie you’ve had your eye on. Ask a person you think is cool to be a partner on a project. Sit – gasp – at a new lunch table (okay, okay, calm down. I won’t make you do that). But seriously, no guts, no glory, girlfriend. You do the same thing over and over again, you’ll get the same thing. When school starts, the window for change opens. Now’s the time to try something different before everyone gets all crusty and set in their ways.
Are you starting out at a new school where you don’t know anyone? Rachel’s also got tips to help you there!
Other suggestions from GENaustin:
Make sure your friendships are positive and make you feel good.
If your friends are making you feel drained or bad about yourself, think about whether it might be time to move away from that friend or friend group. It will be hard at first, but eventually it will open you up to making positive friendships. This article has a good list of ways to tell the difference between toxic friendships and positive ones.
If you’re feeling stressed and anxious about school work or friend drama, take time to relax and do things that’ll help you feel better. We’ve got suggestions! You can’t be the best student/daughter/friend possible if you don’t take the time to take care of yourself.
Get Enough Sleep.
Studies show teens especially need 8-9 hours of sleep per night to function properly and do well in school. If you’re tired when you wake up every morning, and nodding off in algebra, maybe it’s time to hit the hay a little earlier at night.
The first day of school always feels a little nerve wracking, but with these suggestions, you’ll get settled and comfortable in no time! Good luck!